Jimbo's Jots

In 1967, Ms. Aretha Franklin, Queen of Soul, made this word, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, well . . . respectful. Originally written and recorded by Otis Redding two years previously, the Queen took it to greater heights. It’s been an anthem for many in their lives.

All of us have within us a deep desire to be respected. What is somewhat interesting to me is when you look at the definition of the word respect, it has nothing to do with that desire within us. It has everything to do with having or showing admiration of someone due to their abilities and qualities.

You can look in scripture and see where we are commanded to respect parents (Leviticus 19:3), spouses (Ephesians 5:33), God (Malachi 1:6), and the elderly (Leviticus 19:32). Peter even says, “Show proper respect to everyone.” (1 Peter 2:17)

Here’s a secret: Being respectful is taught! There . . . I said it!! I think this teaching is lost.

It starts in the family. The children may or may not witness a respectful attitude in their parents when conversations are made about the work day. If words like “imbecile” or “idiot” are used to describe a co-worker or employer, then we are showing our kids they can be just as disrespectful.

If a husband or wife is focused more on the failures of their spouse than on positive qualities and abilities each bring to the relationship, what is seen is contempt on contempt for the other. Each declares with certainty, “I’m right!!” As I understand the word, respect, it’s really not about being right!

I should not focus on being right when it comes to relationships with people but treating people rightly. Take a look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and tell me where “I need to be respected” is seen. What is see is when I give respect through love to others, then I will receive respect from others.

Be blessed and be a blessing!